Telling a child “How, do not you know that ?! This causes him a shame and a closing reflex. Avoid this remark and gently fill in the gap. Our adult representation of knowledge The many things we have learned since childhood consisted of:
- Clear the information (especially to be helped, then to make this information obvious)
- Understand, learn
- Incorporate knowledge so that it is part of ourselves: except neurological problem, we know how to ride a bike once and for all. We know how to associate July 4th with American History, the 1st World War to 1914/1918, 3 x 3 = 9.
The fluidity acquired is part of our identity. We are, among others, what we know. So it’s tempting to say to someone, “Do not you know that ?! “… And to add by “… at your age ?! “… simply because, in the spectrum of our knowledge, it seems obvious. This is one of the difficulties of the dialogue with teachers who, good students in a subject (maths, French, history) engage in their baccalaureate towards studies focused on their only favorite subject. It is sometimes difficult to tell them that many people around them do not have their ease in this particular area and that they may need to get people to their passion rather than stand at their door. their expertise. Yet, the complexity of the world shows us every day that one is always someone’s illiterate.
Nobody knows everything! So you have to be modest and caring. Children, very young, brand new are in the process of conquering learning, trials, attempts, failures (too). And of course, they know less than us about certain things. Even though! For twenty years, parents often feel the technological “poor” of their offspring.
“At your age, you still do not know that ?! The child bruises. Because he has a relationship of love with his parents and he incorporates this blame as our disappointment about him. It is a shame, since you say it, to be ignorant. The illiterate adults live it in the same way. Ignorance, a gap experienced as poverty.
What to do ?
The best is to start with some questions to situate the problem. Has the child missed out because he was in the moon? because it does not interest him? because he does not have the tools to understand? This is the first time you notice this lack? is it recurrent in the same subject? Then, (little trick) put yourself up to talk to him. It is an extremely simple and incredibly productive gesture of calm and confidence. And here, explain the notion, the small calculation, the country on the map. You do not know it yourself? This happens: tell the child that we will ask such or such … find out about your surroundings, neighborhood, recreation center, and even on the web that contains lots of educational videos, on all subjects…